Wednesday, September 21, 2011

I'd Rather Eat Chocolate

I would even say I'd rather do the Dishes (most hated chore) then have sex!  I used to have a really healthy libido but now not so much.  I used to think I was the only one with this problem but now I am realizing that this is something that is very common.  When I was younger I think I wore my poor husband out but now I seriously would be fine with no sex at all.  My marriage has been most effected by this issue.  At my six week follow-up I talked to my doctor about this problem.  She reassured me that this is very common.  Men can reproduce the rest of their lives but women only reproduce for a short time therefore they have a decrease in libido and men don't.  She also brought up a good point that men don't see it as a problem that they have such a high libido so of course its the women with the problem.  Anyway there is nothing I can do medically right now since I am breastfeeding but she gave me some books to read.  I read them and they were okay.  I realized that I am more concerned about him climaxing that I don't consider how I feel.  I have learned that I am more willing to give it up when we plan ahead instead of crawling into bed and then being asked.  I also learned that the more we do it the more I want it.  My husband has been really great lately making sure I am getting what I need too.  For now I think we have found a system that works for us.  I still struggle with my libido but it isn't an issue in our marriage anymore.

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